Essays and observations about love, liberation, identity, healing, and what it really takes to stop living adjacent to your own life. The kind of thinking that doesn't fit neatly in a feed and for the ones who are done just consuming and ready to actually change something.
Turns out being human is a full time job.
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WHAT IS
Humaning isn’t a self-help column or a highlight reel. And it’s not five ways to do four things to make you not suck so much anymore. If you’re over the simplified checklists for growth or the healing-forever, you’ve come to the right place.
Humaning is where I write about the complicated, occasionally messy, always worthwhile business of being a person.
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Everything is a relationship. The person across the table, sure. But also your body, your phone, food, money, and even the way you talk to yourself at 2am. And every one of these relationships is bringing you home to yourself or pulling you away.
It's all the same work in different clothes. From reaching for the scroll the second a feeling shows up you don't want to feel to the moment in the shower when you realize you could just choose to stop doing what you're doing.
The work we're doing here is to bring all of it into coherence...to stand in the values you hold inside your body instead of just talking about them. To be all of you, in your totality, and stop abandoning yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.
I write long-form here and that's definitely on purpose. There's a whole industry built to steal your attention before you can ever turn it inward. Slowing down enough to feel your own life is about the most rebellious thing I know. Humaning is my version of it.
I write because I'm still figuring it out. And I've found that being honest about that out loud is the most useful thing I can do.
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It's not good enough
We spend so much of our lives trying to figure out why we have certain coping strategies, or why we do what we do in relationship. To me, it almost always comes back to ONE thing:
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