Recently I had a conversation with the brilliant money and business strategist, Selina Gray. The conversation had me reflecting on the birth of my journey with Create The Love (which I share allllll about in the pod. Some details I’ve never shared publicly!)
What I thought about was how I delayed starting Create The Love for years…
And I don’t mean the platform or the social media accounts specifically, I mean what it represented… which was ME.
Me at my core. The authentic expression of what I wanted to do in the world.
But wow… was there a battle between what I was taught to want and be for work and career, and what my soul wanted.
I got caught up in the details of how it had to look… I was trying to figure out all the marketing strategies, the website, the camera… all of it.
In hindsight I see that those were delay tactics.
I was just terrified… Terrified to be truly seen. To say… this —> LOVE… matters to me.
I was someone who previously tried to make it appear that I was fine… that I had things figured out. That my relational endings and betrayals I’d experienced hadn’t destroyed me.
The things I feared most being witnessed were the things I needed to lead with. GAHHHH. Honestly it was terrifying.
I was terrified of being judged. I was terrified that the people I loved most would not be supportive. I was terrified for the world to know that what I truly wanted to do, below the facade and safe life of being a pharmaceutical rep, was teach and guide people about their lives… and more specifically, about love and relationships.
As I say this to you, I want to check in:
Maybe you want to start a business? Maybe you want to pivot what you’re talking about or the services/products you provide?
Maybe you’re in a job you don’t love… and you can feel like something is calling you.
That something is likely connected to your pain and your path out of it…
And look, no matter what circumstances you’re in that find you reading these words — take it from me, someone who delayed beginning — you do not have time!
You do not have time to not be fully YOU. You do not have time to delay your authentic evolution!
And the strategies and all the things are important, but THE MOST IMPORTANT PART — IS STARTING.
That’s it.
And as you begin, as you claim what it is that needs to shift and/or be born in your life, it is the ACT of moving TOWARDS it that is what TRULY claims it.
The anxiety you have.
The helplessness you may feel.
All that shifts when you stop fighting for all the reasons you can’t start NOW, and begin.
Here’s the deal — this is true about changing anything. You become it by becoming it. It’s not a destination, it is formed through action and choice.
What gives us the momentum to shift into action? How do we birth a more authentic version of ourselves into the world… and even better yet, how do we get paid for it?
Well, an email in your inbox saying THIS IS A SIGN, is a pretty good catalyst for change, right? RIGHT?!
(Need a signy-er-sign?)👇
In the podcast, Selina and I dive deeper into one-another’s journey and how we’ve been there for each other — how through community, we’ve had to stretch — but also how we’ve had to reach for one another when we get stalled/stuck in a transition space.
Relationships and the people we surround ourselves with can and will completely alter our lives and what we believe we’re capable of… so choose who you surround yourself with wisely.
And also, learn from people who are currently living in a way you aspire to, because not only will you download the knowledge that took them YEARS to learn, you’ll also begin to unconsciously model their behaviours so as to create the same results in your life.
And last… but certainly not least:
No one’s life is made better by you playing small and not being the REAL you… except for those who are afraid of your bigness and realness.
It’s not loving.
It’s not altruistic.
And you don’t get an award or a cookie for doing it.
Don’t let their lack of capacity for all of you become your capacity for all of you.
Inviting them to stretch is actually what love does.
Much love,
Mark
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