My unfiltered,
no-BS musings.

“When you use a method to find and open the gate with a love, you can’t get trapped in the method. The method has to die. It has to fall apart. So that you can realize that the opening was always there.” ~ Ram Dass. When we find love and joy through another, why does

Many of you ask, “When are you going to write a book?” Well, that moment is NOW! It gives me SO MUCH PLEASURE and JOY to announce that Kylie and I’s book, Liberated Love, is available for pre-order! And YES, you can preorder the Audible too! (I’m an audiobook lover… so that had to happen!) This book dives

When we are certain of unconditional love, not just from another but also from ourselves, we become warriors of the heart. We will leap beyond what we once conceived as possible because a love we’ve never known has shattered the paradigm of the upper limits of what we thought connection could be and bring. Unfortunately,

I was recently watching a friend of mine, Kristin Hallett, speaking about death and what it means to truly live. Kristin works with people exploring how they want to be remembered… whether that’s accompanying them on their way out, or working with someone who today wants to embrace living a life with no regrets. During her

“I don’t know what to do, Mark!”  If I had a nickel for every DM I’ve gotten with those words…. Well, I’d have a lot of nickels. It feels to me like being stuck in a particular area of life is something we all experience at some point — or perhaps at many times throughout

I get asked a lot how I built a following of over 1.3 million people and a podcast that gets 500k downloads per month… Where did I get lucky? Did I go viral, and that changed it all?

I met a woman last week who went back to work three weeks after she had her baby. THREE WEEKS!  This had me thinking: A lot of our social issues, especially in the US, are due to the fact that we do not prioritize the relationship of a new mother and child…

A company or career that doesn’t align is like a relationship that doesn’t align. Trying to force things that don’t fit is often something we learn as children. Our wounding doesn’t just limit us personally; it also shows up in our professional lives. What I find to be helpful whenever faced with conundrums like this

Have you ever woken up in a relationship (or after you just got out of one) and asked yourself questions like, “When did I forget about me?” Or, “When was the last time I even considered what I wanted or what I needed?!” This is typical of so many of us. Why? Because, more often than not, it’s what’s modelled

Relationships require compromise, right? I remember hearing this a lot growing up. And while I think it is true, what is not specified is the difference between compromise and self-abandonment. We have people throwing themselves under the bus in relationships, wondering why they feel sick, depleted, resentful, have auto-immune mysteries, and are exhausted, when all

In today’s modern world, where we’re being exposed to more toxins and stress than ever before, it feels like mysterious illnesses and chronic diagnoses are the new norm. Often, conventional medicine doesn’t seem to help, either. How many of you have been rushed through an appointment with your GP, only to be given a prescription

All of my greatest transformations have come with the willingness to endure the quiet storm that always comes right before the transformation. I say “quiet storm” because the silent moments right before the miracle are some of the most deafening. They just hit differently. I think about the first moment I decided to be curious instead

We spend so much of our lives trying to figure out why we have certain coping strategies, or why we do what we do in relationship. To me, it almost always comes back to ONE thing: We’ve given our power away (or feel as though it was taken). The way we deal with the pain

To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love. ~ Thich Nhat Hanh I remember when I first read the above quote from Thich Nhat Hanh, I was floored. I had this instant recognition that comes when truth is delivered in words that cut right through the psyche and straight into the

Relationships are THE MOST POTENT vehicle for growth and transformation. If we’re willing to turn towards our partnerships, both past and present, seeking to understand why we do what we do (and for our partners to do the same), we can heal the wounds and behaviours we have that hold us back and create a

Recently Kylie shared with me an excerpt from Francis Weller’s book “The Wild Edge Of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief”. Such powerful words from one of my favourite teachers that hit me right in the core. Here it is:

I’ve personally experienced the impact of social media on my psyche. And, getting to witness and share social media with over a million people has offered a lens that I can’t pretend I don’t see. Social media comes for ALL of you. Left to its own devices and algorithms it will not leave any of

I used to think that grief was something that you have purely as a result of losing love. While that is certainly true, now I see that it is also present as we open to receiving love. I think this has many dimensions in the context of romantic love:

The other day I was playing with my nephew who is 14 months old. I watched as he went from playing with building blocks to little farm animals to anything and everything. Construction. Destruction. Repeat. It was really magnificent to try to see the world through his eyes, and even more interesting, to observe what

I know people loathe things like “New year, new you” and all the things about the New Year. But to be honest, I love this time of year. I love opportunities to reflect. Whether it’s with the seasons changing that remind us of the cycles of life, or years turning over, there is such transformational

With every year that passes I like to write a reflective post about what has transpired and what I’ve learned. Perhaps through reading this you will find some reflections of your own, and I would love to hear in the comments — what have been your greatest lessons and learnings in the past year?

Recently I had the honour of interviewing the author Martha Beck, and I was struck by how full of life and joy she is. This woman has a past and a story (that continues to unfold) that would inspire anyone to change and transform their life. I encourage you to check out the episode and subscribe to the podcast as we

I was consuming, or rather, consumed by, Mary Oliver’s work recently via the On Being podcast, and I wanted to elaborate on what her words brought forward for me. There is a saying that one does not have to understand the words they read to infuse them into their being — as the words are written in a

“Nature loves courage. You make the commitment and nature will respond to that commitment by removing impossible obstacles. Dream the impossible dream and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the trick. This is what all these teachers and philosophers who really counted, who really touched the alchemical

I’ve been surfing a lot this week, and it’s given me some really invaluable time to reflect. I have always loved surf culture, surf clothing. I love the ocean, I love beaches, sand and coffee and beach fires and ALL THE THINGS. And I LOVE vintage cars. I’m not sure what that has to do

When I was twenty-seven I was in a five-year long relationship. The woman was (is) beautiful, kind, smart, athletic… she was basically perfect. But yet, despite what I tell you, there was just something in me that was screaming and gnawing at my soul that I wasn’t where I needed to be. This is about

“I had no idea things were that bad. When she left it was such a shock.” Was it really? Because I’m sure there were signs lonnnnnng before the bags were packed and a trail of smoke led out your front door. This is a common feeling for men; that we didn’t know she was going

When I was nineteen I was so in love. And like it seems to always happen with great relationships at that age, she went away to college. When she was leaving we had that standard conversation about what the relationship was going to look like, but at that point in our lives it almost seemed

When I was younger the setting of most of my teenage make-outs was far from ideal. I mean, there was a roof over my head, and food in the fridge, but in the basement of our family home, nestled in the back corner, was our “study”. The temperature of our basement was sometimes close to

Slut is an extremely powerful word, isn’t it? In four letters we have managed to encapsulate all of the shaming we, as humans, connect with female sexuality. Of course the shaming of sexuality and sexual freedom is not reserved for just women. Society and culture have tried to control and dictate how we wish to