It’s not what you really think š¤Æ
You come to me wondering why you feel so anxious.
You wonder why you canāt seem to trust your partner.
You wonder why you need to have soooooo many talks about all the things.
You wonder what the hell is wrong with you? Why canāt you just relax? Why do you have a hard time trusting people? Why do you chase them away? Why do you bring things up that are concerning you? And, WHY OH WHY do you have to be SO MUCH?
My GAWWWWWWWD. WHY?
Let me preface what Iām about to say with the recognition that we can have a hyper-vigilance from our life experiences that causes us to get *stuck* in a nervous system response ā always surveying, seeking to control our environment, and never fully being able to *relax* into our lives.
So, if the unpredictable wounded you, it makes sense that you would try EVERYTHING you can to control and predict life. How youāre responding, given what happened in your past, makes sense.
AND, the truths Iām about to drop still matter even in that context.
If you have relationship anxiety, and/or an anxious attachment style, and ANY of the following are the current circumstances of your lifeā¦ your anxiety is not the problem, the circumstances are.
Your anxiety is a SYMPTOM (always is) of your life, your choices, and what you tolerate. (More on that after this savage list š„)
Okayā¦ letās dive in. (Grab your āļø)
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