“There is freedom waiting for you,
On the breezes of the sky,
And you ask “What if I fall?”
Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”
— Erin Hanson
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My friend sent this quote to me this week and I felt every word deeply.
I, like you, worry about life and what lives in the unknown. It is normal for us to think about all of the things that could go wrong with our lives. If you think about it, you and I are only here because our ancestors saw the tiger. They weren’t busy smelling roses and dreaming, they were prioritizing survival.
I say that so you can recognize that the fear of leaping and trusting your heart is in your DNA. It’s normal to not leap. It’s not a problem with you, much like the adaptive strategies you have from childhood aren’t. All of the skills and ways of being were necessary to get you and I here, to this moment.
Maybe we can take a step back from our behaviours and our fears and ask, “Is this serving me? Is this thinking and way of being liberating me, or keeping me imprisoned? Are my choices growing me? Or keeping me the same?”
Ambivalence is self-sabotage. Being “stuck” is self-sabotage. Indecision is self-sabotage. Avoidance is self-sabotage.
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