and he needs you.
“You don’t need no man” is bullshit. And listen, I’m not saying you need a man (or woman) to complete you, make you whole, or validate your worthiness…
But what I am saying is that in the desire to liberate women from oppressive and patriarchal relationship patterns, we have created generations of women terrified to depend on anyone… especially a man.
Look, not all men are reliable. Not all men are great. Not all men are blah blah blah… I get it! And you do too! I’m not saying anything no one knows… I’m just pointing to a statement that encompasses a movement that has created generations of men and women who are both lonely and can’t seem to find their way to one another because they’re terrified of losing themselves. (for good reason!)
And — let’s be clear: you shouldn’t try to rely on a man who’s unreliable because that’s a quick way to become crazy. And you shouldn’t depend on a man who weaponizes money and power. And you shouldn’t depend on a man who is toxic, abusive, narcissistic, psychopathic, and all the other things that are likely quite obvious.
In the desire to rescue women from oppression (very important) we forgot to have a bunch of adults sit down and have a conversation about how true relating requires leaning on one another.
We forgot to add more context to the statement because what we really should have said was:
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