29th December 2025
#492: Stop Negotiating With Future You

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Summary

In this episode I share a raw, unexpected series of moments—that all converge on one unavoidable truth: life is fragile, and integrity can’t wait. I explore how incongruence slowly kills our aliveness, how the smallest compromises quietly accumulate, and why waiting for the “right time” is the most dangerous lie we tell ourselves. This is a direct, unfiltered invitation to stop negotiating with your future self, to reclaim your attention from the distractions anesthetizing your potential, and to live in alignment with what you already know is true. Because every choice you make is either life-affirming or life-draining, and one day, you won’t have the luxury of pretending otherwise.


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00:00 – A Moment That Changed Everything

02:10 – An Unexpected Psychedelic Wake-Up

05:00 – Confronting Mortality Head-On

08:15 – Fatherhood Changes the Stakes

11:30 – The Cost of Small Compromises

15:05 – How Incongruence Drains Your Life

18:40 – The Lie of “I’ll Do It Later”

22:10 – Distraction as Self-Anesthesia

26:00 – Integrity Is Urgent

29:45 – Every Choice Is Life-Giving or Life-Draining

33:20 – Stop Negotiating With Your Future Self

36:50 – The Call to Live Aligned—Now


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