Oct 12, 2020

Dr. Harriet Lerner – 7 Steps On How To Find Courage And Use Your Voice

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Boundaries, Communication, Connection, Relationship, Self-Awareness


I am so excited and honoured to welcome one of my absolute dream guests – the incredible Dr. Harriet Lerner this week.  Dr Lerner is  best known for her scholarly work on the psychology of women and family relationships and is also a best selling author, speaker and teacher. Her incredible books including The Dance of Anger, The Dance of Intimacy and Why Won’t You Apologize have completely transformed my life and the way I relate.

In this episode, Dr. Lerner walks us through the 7 steps on how to find courage and use your voice. Each step arms us with the tools to converse effectively and to distinguish between real feelings and our pure anxiety driven reactivity. You won’t want to miss this!


  • Why do we self-abandon?
  • Difficult conversations with difficult people
  • How to have courage and make life changing moves in relationships
  • What over-explaining yourself means and what to do about it
  • Strike while the iron is COLD
  • Defensiveness, stonewalling, criticism and shutting down
  • Self-worth and the connection to apology
  • LDD – Listening Deficit Disorder
  • What is defensive listening?
  • Respect for differences vs. right or wrong
  • Boundaries vs. bottom line position