30th March 2026
#505: Stop Going Back to What Hurts You

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Human Connection Specialist, Speaker, Author, Coach, Podcast Host and founder of Create The Love. 
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Summary

In this episode I break down why you keep going back to the same person, pattern, or behavior and why it’s not failure, it’s unfinished healing. I unpack how shame keeps you stuck, how unresolved grief is driving your choices, and why you’re not going backwards, you’re being shown what still needs to be healed. This is a call to stop avoiding the deeper work, start choosing yourself, and finally build the self-trust that changes everything.


Discover

00:00:00 Why We Go Back to Our Exes

00:01:03 Shame & Relapse: Not Actually Backwards

00:02:33 The Brilliance Behind Repeat Behaviors

00:04:09 Familiar Pain vs. Real Growth

00:06:11 Choosing a New Beginning Before Rock Bottom

00:07:22 The Role of Village & Family Origin

00:10:11 Three Questions for Healing Mother Wounds

00:13:36 How to Trust Yourself & Move Forward


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