15th August 2024
#399: The Shadow Side of “Goodness” | Part 1

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Summary

In this episode, we dive into the complexities of the often-hidden, manipulative aspects of goodness and niceness within relationships. While these traits are typically seen as virtuous, they can sometimes stem from low self-worth and a deep need for validation, ultimately breeding mistrust. We explore the dynamics of people-pleasing, its connection to resentment, and the critical importance of setting healthy boundaries to disrupt patterns that impede personal growth and authentic connection. Additionally, we examine codependency and how it distorts our understanding of love and support. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion on recognizing your own relational patterns, the societal impact of perceived goodness, and ways to cultivate healthier, more genuine relationships rooted in mutual respect.


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0:00:00 Intro

0:00:24 The Shadow Side of Goodness in Relationship

0:01:08 Identifying as “Nice”

0:02:18 Feeling Manipulation

0:03:06 Unconsciously Creating Issues

0:05:05 Perpetual Re-wounding and The Decision to Orient from Health

0:05:55 The Power of Resentment

0:06:38 Naming Our Unconscious Contract

0:06:55 Why “Nice Guys Finish Last”

0:08:45 Genuine Kindness and No Longer Hustling For Your Worth

0:09:44 Getting to the Root of this Learned Behavior 

0:10:54 Owning our Reality

0:12:25 Interdependency and Authentic Relationships


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