Nov 23, 2023

#327: Why Humans Fear Commitment

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#327: Why Humans Fear Commitment

In this episode, I dive deep into the subject of commitment. Not just in the sense of committed romantic relationships—but the fear of commitment to ourselves and our truth, extrapolating it to every area of your life. Your fear to commit to a dream, to a possibility, to a relationship, to your purpose, to a goal—all of these are the same process. Understanding what lies at the base of our fears of commitment can allow us to become more committed people, more disciplined, more discerning, and move forward and create things we never thought were possible but always desired. 

Sentence starters I share in this episode:

—When I love people, they…

—When I love people, I…

—When I let people love me, they…

—When I let people love me, I…


0:00:00 Intro

0:00:07 The Fear of Commitment: A Deep Dive

0:02:43 My Story

0:05:24 The Flawed Thinking of Commitment in Relationships

0:09:23 Betrayal and Emotional Regulation

0:10:56 Abandoning Myself in Compromised Agreements

0:14:46 Heartbreak and the Shift Away from Monogamy

0:21:19 Fear of Betrayal in Love

0:24:44 Trusting Yourself and Making Commitments

0:31:00 A Revelation: Understanding My Avoidance


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