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Apr 10, 2023

Cracking the Code of Successful Relationships with Elizabeth Earnshaw

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Boundaries, Communication, Dating, Marriage, Marriage and Family Therapy, Premarital Counseling, Relationships, Vulnerability


Join in the conversation with Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT + Gottman therapist. What are the benefits of premarital counseling? How can we best deal with our partner’s differences? What is the science behind flooding and its effects on emotional communication? Elizabeth shares how you can have a long-lasting relationship by consciously navigating the relationship obstacles we all experience. 

Elizabeth is a renowned Gottman therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy (MA), author, and influential Instagram therapist who has helped transform countless relationships. She is a co-founder and the Head of Relationship Health of OURS, a virtual premarital counseling service that provides accessible and destigmatized couples counseling for the young, modern couple. 

Grab your journals and soak up new skills that you can immediately implement to take your relationship to the next level!


  • The benefits of premarital counseling
  • How to deal with your partner’s differences 
  • The science behind flooding and its effects on emotional communication
  • The Four Horsemen of conflict communication that most often destroy relationships and how to avoid them

00:00 Intro 

01:11 Redefining traditional premarital counseling with OURS

05:41 Navigating perpetual differences in relationships

09:19 Finding richness in our differences

12:49 Overcoming resistance to premarital conversations

18:22 Flooding and its effects on emotional communication

22:15 How to have difficult conversations

27:52 Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling

51:21 The silent killer in relationships

55:35 Can a fractured relationship be healed?

1:01:47 The Imago Framework



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