Feb 20, 2023

How to Change Unwanted Patterns in Life and Love with Vienna Pharaon

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Childhood Wounds, Family Systems, people-pleasing, Relationships, Self-Worth


I think it’s safe to say that none of us had a perfect childhood, and we all carry around behaviours and unhealed pain that don’t serve us. But it doesn’t have to be this way: our past may have created our patterns, but we can change them with some self-awareness and the right tools. Join my bestie Vienna Pharaon and me as we dive into understanding and overcoming wounds from our Family of Origin, so you can move beyond your frustrating patterns in life and love and into a more liberated way of being.

Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought-after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for more than fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. Her first book, The Origins of You, hits shelves on February 21st, 2023.


  • How unhealed pain or “wounds” from our Family of Origin manifest in our adult behaviours
  • Why it’s so difficult to hold the paradox of being both disappointed with and grateful for our upbringing
  • Five common “origin wounds” and how they show up in our adult lives
  • How to identify and start to heal the origin wounds that hold you back

00:00 Intro 

02:10 How childhood wounds impact us today

13:57 You don’t need to have a traumatic childhood to have wounds

18:19 Being both disappointed with and grateful for aspects of your upbringing

29:23 Examples of origin wounds 

32:35 The belonging wound

36:53 The prioritization wound

45:15 Safety and trust wounds

55:42 How to begin healing