I’m super pumped to be joined by Jeff Guenther, aka @therapyjeff for today’s episode. I’ve been watching Jeff distill complex information and break down relational challenges online in such a consumable and digestible way for some time now, so to sit down with him today and go deeper into allllll things romantic relationships is an honour.
Jeff Guenther is a licensed professional counselor in Portland, Oregon. He’s been a therapist since 2005 and his practice focuses on both couples and individuals. These days, he spends most of his spare time making one-minute videos for TikTok and Instagram, and more in-depth content on Patreon. Consider following him on all the platforms for relationship advice, tips, pep talks and other resources to maximize your mental health.
01:48 Starting an online presence
05:05 Back to (relationship) basics
06:08 Blaming your parents
08:00 Do you need to forgive in order to heal?
11:30 Stop talking shit about your ex
13:15 Know your own red flags
16:44 Assuming good intent
20:20 Asking for reassurance
26:56 Actions vs. words
30:45 Having needs is sexy
35:21 Anxious/avoidant attachment
37:54 Having a crush on someone while in a relationship
51:07 Red flags when you have a crush
53:10 Thinking relationally