Today I welcome Julia Malott to the show! Julia is a transgender woman from Toronto, Canada and creator of Alotta Thoughts: Quick Take Videos exploring nuanced conversations about our identity political divide. Julia is concerned that our recent politics surrounding gender identity and ideology have become increasingly divisive, and she’s determined to bridge this gap. Through thoughtful conversation with individuals from all political perspectives, Julia seeks to cut through the noise and have productive conversations across the ideological spectrum to demonstrate that we are not nearly as divided as we might have thought.
Join us today as we consciously dialogue about things that most people are afraid to talk about: gender identity especially in terms of being taught to young children, the parent-school divide, transphobia and hate, pronouns, and transitioning. Julia opens up about her personal story on how she navigated the shame around her identity, how she overcome her victim mentality, and the hate she experienced during her transition. She also shares how parents can better understand their kids who may be questioning their gender, build a supportive and safe relationship, and guide them through their experience in a safe and mindful way. This is a conversation you surely wouldn’t want to miss!
01:36 Why do we need to have these conversations?
06:35 The Parent-School Divide
11:09 Teaching young kids about gender identity
17:27 Providing gender-affirming care
21:59 Finding joy in the transition
25:57 Victim mentality in the journey of transition
29:38 Transphobia and hate
35:46 Transgender inclusion in sports
42:15 Learning and understanding pronouns
47:41 Letting go of external validation
49:03 Overcoming shame and narcissism
54:32 Why girls can be masculine but boys can’t be feminine
1:00:10 What are Puberty Blockers?
1:05:10 Parenting with transitioning kids
1:08:19 Gender identity is not everything