Mar 11, 2024

#355: Unlocking the World of Attachment, Emotional Isolation, and EFT with Dr. Sue

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Attachment Theory, Authenticity, Belonging, Boundaries, Breakups, codependency, Conflict, Dating, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Emotions, Grief, Health, Infidelity, Mental Health, Relationships, Self-Love, Self-Worth, Transformation


In this episode, I welcome Dr. Sue Johnson, a pioneering figure in couples therapy and adult attachment, renowned for her role in developing Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Together, we explore the profound impact of relationships and attachment in the human experience. Dr. Sue discusses the role of emotions in therapy, emphasizing the significance of understanding and validating emotions to establish secure attachments. Throughout the episode, she shares insights on how she’s helped her clients navigate challenging emotions for authentic change through EFT. Dr. Sue also dives into topics such as the transformative power of emotional epiphanies, the creation of safe spaces in therapy, the societal shift towards digital connections, and the importance of understanding attachment needs in the digital age. Join us in this impactful conversation to explore the pursuit of authentic, face-to-face connections and their fundamental role in enhancing your emotional well-being.

Dr. Sue Johnson has received numerous awards including Psychotherapy Networker’s Lifetime Achievement Award, the APA’s Family Psychologist of the Year, and the Order of Canada. Her best-selling book Hold Me Tight (2008) has sold over one million copies and was developed into a relationship education program. As founding director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), Dr. Sue trains counselors in EFT worldwide, providing guidance to over 90 affiliated organizations.


0:00:00 Intro

0:01:26 The Influence of Childhood Experiences

0:20:34 Emotional Epiphanies in Therapy

0:23:20 The Importance of Relationship Education

0:26:30 The Impact of Loneliness

0:29:03 Love’s Role in Heart Health

0:31:21 Rethinking Independence and Attachment

0:34:26 The Impact of Technology on Relationships

0:46:32 Challenges of Polyamory in Relationships

0:56:37 Overcoming Negative Self-Perception

0:59:49 Cultural Differences in Relationship Values

1:03:05 The Importance of Emotional Connection

1:05:50 Addressing Depression and Anxiety

1:06:35 Resources for Building Healthy Relationships


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— Dr. Sue’s Books

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