Apr 30, 2019

Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman – The Trauma Of Infidelity

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Connection, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationship, Trauma


Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is one of the world’s most preeminent relationship researchers. Along with her husband Dr. John Gottman, they run the Gottman Institute, who have conducted many of the world’s most extensive studies on marital stability. This week we delve straight into trauma, including Dr. Gottman’s previous trauma work, the trauma of infidelity, and the Gottman therapy related to this trauma. Lastly, we discuss their latest book – Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. What is it that makes a good relationship and how do good relationships benefit us?


  • Trauma, what is it? What does it do to us? What does it feel like?
  • The healing power of connection.
  • The Gottman’s couples conflict resolution approach – what questions do you need to ask your partner?
  • Cheating, infidelity and the trauma in betrayal.
  • Therapy for infidelity, the three-stage process.
  • What often leads to infidelity?
  • Eight Dates, the Gottman’s newest book on dating and relationships in their initial phases.