Mar 16, 2020

Michelle Herzog – Toxic Dating Culture

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Boundaries, Dating, Relationship, self-abandonment, Self-Worth, Unavailability


Do you feel like your dating life is stale, or even toxic? Today’s guest is going to be a breath of fresh air for you. Michelle Herzog is a relationship expert, sex therapist and LMFT who is here to break down exactly what toxic dating culture means. In this episode we work through Tinder dating, gender roles, paying for first dates, to casual sex, and how to be ethical in dating. Most importantly, we break down how we can shift to take the lead in our dating life, declare our own needs, and end connections with kindness. Ultimately, we can turn a toxic dating culture into a healing one. This episode will show you how!

Michelle Herzog, LMFT, CST is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist with advanced training from Northwestern University and the University of Michigan. She is an ethical dating advocate and utilizes a no BS approach towards educating and empowering people to craft values-based dating, relationship, and sexual experiences. Michelle is a true believer in the power of therapy and its ability to transform people’s relationships with themselves and the ones they love.


  • Will you hold for the things you want?
  • The modern times of “flea-bagging” “zombie-ing,” “ghosting”, and “bread crumbing”
  • Where we are losing accountability on dating apps
  • The connection between tolerating behaviors and the worth you hold
  • Paying on the first date dilemma
  • The power of feeling seen in relationship
  • If you loved yourself in this situation, what would you do?
  • The deep truths hidden inside grief
  • How do we take control of our dating experience?
  • Ignoring the truth and self-abandonment
  • Communication and expectations around your needs
  • What is healthy shame?


  • Michelle is the owner of the Center for Mindful Living, a relationship and sex therapy practice based in Chicago. Her specialized work is rooted in her personal belief system that everyone deserves a healthy and deeply pleasurable sex life. She can be contacted at
  • Instagram: @chicagosextherapy